Huang Lihong couple are Christians , the children small is in the church grew up , so a lot of the basic principle is based on Bible principles. In life , apart from keeper Bible God, to the principles of , we attach great importance to cultivate their sense of responsibility. I think whether you at any age, any environment, any of the posts above, if you have a good sense of responsibility , you will do well . Responsibility for their future growth or to the above work is very important. So from they at four years old the time start school with finishing their room , for example, the clothes clean folded , they own put their closet , and their homework is their responsibility, I do not need every day Ask them to do their homework , they know to do, of their own pipe the things me to make their own to manage . Small training them on they should charge of what be able to seriously take do it to complete .
In teaching their children the process of , sometimes children may their parents the teachings of have some dissatisfaction with , some children's ideas are with us not the same . As they grow up, especially the eldest son , for me is really a challenge to the a teenager when child is very difficult upbringing , and while I find some in this age young people books view And also asked a lot of in this respect experience the parents , and with children living different performance. For example, I heard some cases , positive or negative, I will with my son share , should talk to them about this matter , ask them this matter the idea of is how they will share.
Many parents have been complaining that children spend too much time TV with the computer above the . of my kids to Few watch TV until today after school come back will not to open the TV , they do not have this habit, and rarely play games, because in addition to homework other , there is no extra time. I will arrange outdoor activities such as sports, participate in different extracurricular activities , weekend time to participate in Boy Scouts to go walking, cycling , camping, to now form a habit , has been on the game uninteresting .
Occasionally he would go to students home for a birthday party, which my mother on our family told me in general boys playing games is obsessed with , my son half an hour, he would up and call other children play with To not continue the game inside. As has been told them , you have to know how to control yourself, do not let anything , anything to control you. For example, addicted to a as game, I told him to play with the time to yourself learn to control , you yourself know I have to stop when I can stop. There are times when children for a play together few hours can not stop, even the whole night will not sleep , and if so, you become subject to the computer or by this game to control you , you are a wise person, you Should not allow These things to control you, should you go to control it.
the child If you make a mistake when , if it is in life not much of a problem , we will talk to him , you 're doing something wrong. If he did not think he is wrong , he can give me a good explanation, I hope he in a respectful manner told me , because some things, his views than I do , so I will not say A mistake , I ferocious went to call him . I gave him an opportunity to explain in by this interpretation , and slowly let him know that is wrong.
Sometimes, he challenged that , why I'm wrong , not you wrong? I would tell him that we go back to the Bible to see , you do not comply with the Bible God the teachings of . God is perfect, and parents are not perfect , I may have wrong time, but we together learn . So far , we seem no big conflicts. I think the kids young in the church growing up , the Bible the teachings of in their future life which is very important , will they bring far-reaching spiritual impact .
Sometimes feel that we Chinese people parents , children often are criticized , scolded , discipline multi- , encouragement, appreciation, certainly less . In particular, we of this generation , young parents are seldom praise you, and you do well we should. North American child life is not the same , parents rarely criticized , with critics of the way , are generally encouraged. He did well when we to encourage him told him , you should be able to do well , this time doing a good job , we next time work , if you have difficulties, we are together. He did good, we gave him appreciate his positive , give him some appreciation. In fact, some time, encouragement and appreciation for but will give the child more self-confidence, greater motivation to learn. Reminds me of the biblical phrase " education children, so he walked in the way , is old he will not depart from it . "This is almost we the couple before going to sleep pray as part of our every night for my two A son pray.
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