Huang Lihong couple are Christians , the children small is in the church grew up , so a lot of the basic principle is based on Bible principles. In life , apart from keeper Bible God, to the principles of , we attach great importance to cultivate their sense of responsibility. I think whether you at any age, any environment, any of the posts above, if you have a good sense of responsibility , you will do well . Responsibility for their future growth or to the above work is very important. So from they at four years old the time start school with finishing their room , for example, the clothes clean folded , they own put their closet , and their homework is their responsibility, I do not need every day Ask them to do their homework , they know to do, of their own pipe the things me to make their own to manage . Small training them on they should charge of what be able to seriously take do it to complete .
In teaching their children the process of , sometimes children may their parents the teachings of have some dissatisfaction with , some children's ideas are with us not the same . As they grow up, especially the eldest son , for me is really a challenge to the a teenager when child is very difficult upbringing , and while I find some in this age young people books view And also asked a lot of in this respect experience the parents , and with children living different performance. For example, I heard some cases , positive or negative, I will with my son share , should talk to them about this matter , ask them this matter the idea of is how they will share.
Many parents have been complaining that children spend too much time TV with the computer above the . of my kids to Few watch TV until today after school come back will not to open the TV , they do not have this habit, and rarely play games, because in addition to homework other , there is no extra time. I will arrange outdoor activities such as sports, participate in different extracurricular activities , weekend time to participate in Boy Scouts to go walking, cycling , camping, to now form a habit , has been on the game uninteresting .
Occasionally he would go to students home for a birthday party, which my mother on our family told me in general boys playing games is obsessed with , my son half an hour, he would up and call other children play with To not continue the game inside. As has been told them , you have to know how to control yourself, do not let anything , anything to control you. For example, addicted to a as game, I told him to play with the time to yourself learn to control , you yourself know I have to stop when I can stop. There are times when children for a play together few hours can not stop, even the whole night will not sleep , and if so, you become subject to the computer or by this game to control you , you are a wise person, you Should not allow These things to control you, should you go to control it.
the child If you make a mistake when , if it is in life not much of a problem , we will talk to him , you 're doing something wrong. If he did not think he is wrong , he can give me a good explanation, I hope he in a respectful manner told me , because some things, his views than I do , so I will not say A mistake , I ferocious went to call him . I gave him an opportunity to explain in by this interpretation , and slowly let him know that is wrong.
Sometimes, he challenged that , why I'm wrong , not you wrong? I would tell him that we go back to the Bible to see , you do not comply with the Bible God the teachings of . God is perfect, and parents are not perfect , I may have wrong time, but we together learn . So far , we seem no big conflicts. I think the kids young in the church growing up , the Bible the teachings of in their future life which is very important , will they bring far-reaching spiritual impact .
Sometimes feel that we Chinese people parents , children often are criticized , scolded , discipline multi- , encouragement, appreciation, certainly less . In particular, we of this generation , young parents are seldom praise you, and you do well we should. North American child life is not the same , parents rarely criticized , with critics of the way , are generally encouraged. He did well when we to encourage him told him , you should be able to do well , this time doing a good job , we next time work , if you have difficulties, we are together. He did good, we gave him appreciate his positive , give him some appreciation. In fact, some time, encouragement and appreciation for but will give the child more self-confidence, greater motivation to learn. Reminds me of the biblical phrase " education children, so he walked in the way , is old he will not depart from it . "This is almost we the couple before going to sleep pray as part of our every night for my two A son pray.
2010年9月28日星期二
2010年9月26日星期日
of marriage Disappointed because
In marriage (especially the wedding day is not long ), the rarely seen growing in step, psychological needs are the same couple. the couple Step with , one more in need of psychological space , the other the more need for intimacy the phenomenon of , will bring the two sides the pain . However, most of the marriage, go through a similar kind of " production of pain. " marital relationship Into the individual on the , the two sides may have a felt cheated . the feeling The more intense , the couple 's conflicts are more intense. caused by the couple This feeling reasons for several .
1. Marginal utility of the problem. When I was young , of Taiwan supplies poor , the first taste of ice cream , taste best . After coming to America at any time ice cream to eat , no as the first less memorable feeling . love The same is true in symbiotic period the early , everything is so fresh and beautiful, as long as with each other together, hearts full of joy. because of each other is always smiling Compliment you, praise you, increase your self worth. Time goes by, gradually lost freshness , the other side appreciate you and make you excited , joy the ability of increasingly reduced . Alone and each other with , can no longer make you satisfied.
2. before marriage In order to get each other's love , both sides regard the their best side performance of out , how many hiding the other do not like side. with They fall in love , a great his ideal dreamer image of projected onto each other body , and then fell in love with his own project that image.
Each of the lovers most experienced this love early each other landscaping stage of . They were willing to go the carpet the other side of , the promise of life, stay together , through thick and thin promises, often because they subconsciously are wishful thinking to think that , " he will always and marriage , like love me, appreciate me, pay attention to me , Accept me. as long as with him , even if does not do anything , he would take the initiative to bring me happiness . " marriage , when this sweet better feeling gradually fade away, also found that spouses than originally expected less the ideal when , feel cheated wells . I thought: "I still as before did not change Yeah, why he has changed ? the past, he obviously have the ability to bring me happiness, why is with him no longer there sweet happiness ? he can do it , and Unwilling to meet my heart the needs of , he was not on purpose ? "So , like not being met children as , in order to achieve their goals , both sides may be used playfully, to please the way , and then high pressure , blaming, angry , to provoke Other guilt means of force the other into submission . Unfortunately, this is the high-pressure manipulation way of (coerciveprocess), is difficult to bring the each other desire to meet , but let the couple into hurting each other a vicious cycle of . As mentioned earlier, and the couple to each other took the wrong electric blanket switch in general, one the more need to reduce the psychological distance , the other more in need of psychological space. pursue intimacy Party to with a crying, angry punishment pressure will only make the other spared further.
1. Marginal utility of the problem. When I was young , of Taiwan supplies poor , the first taste of ice cream , taste best . After coming to America at any time ice cream to eat , no as the first less memorable feeling . love The same is true in symbiotic period the early , everything is so fresh and beautiful, as long as with each other together, hearts full of joy. because of each other is always smiling Compliment you, praise you, increase your self worth. Time goes by, gradually lost freshness , the other side appreciate you and make you excited , joy the ability of increasingly reduced . Alone and each other with , can no longer make you satisfied.
2. before marriage In order to get each other's love , both sides regard the their best side performance of out , how many hiding the other do not like side. with They fall in love , a great his ideal dreamer image of projected onto each other body , and then fell in love with his own project that image.
Each of the lovers most experienced this love early each other landscaping stage of . They were willing to go the carpet the other side of , the promise of life, stay together , through thick and thin promises, often because they subconsciously are wishful thinking to think that , " he will always and marriage , like love me, appreciate me, pay attention to me , Accept me. as long as with him , even if does not do anything , he would take the initiative to bring me happiness . " marriage , when this sweet better feeling gradually fade away, also found that spouses than originally expected less the ideal when , feel cheated wells . I thought: "I still as before did not change Yeah, why he has changed ? the past, he obviously have the ability to bring me happiness, why is with him no longer there sweet happiness ? he can do it , and Unwilling to meet my heart the needs of , he was not on purpose ? "So , like not being met children as , in order to achieve their goals , both sides may be used playfully, to please the way , and then high pressure , blaming, angry , to provoke Other guilt means of force the other into submission . Unfortunately, this is the high-pressure manipulation way of (coerciveprocess), is difficult to bring the each other desire to meet , but let the couple into hurting each other a vicious cycle of . As mentioned earlier, and the couple to each other took the wrong electric blanket switch in general, one the more need to reduce the psychological distance , the other more in need of psychological space. pursue intimacy Party to with a crying, angry punishment pressure will only make the other spared further.
2010年9月25日星期六
If the Mid-Autumn Moon Festival
Years had passed , spring and autumn several times , but also almonds , autumn 's Mid-Autumn Festival . On this section of the moon 's origin , spread a lot of story: If the Moon , Wu Gang felling Gui , rabbit pound medicine and moon cake uprising so . People eat moon cake in the Mid-Autumn Festival , is said to commemorate the success of national uprising . At that time, the Yuan Dynasty , many patriotic righteous , unhappy alien Mongols against Han 's brutal rule , so plan before Mid-Autumn Festival , will be written , " August 15 Night Uprising " note hidden within the cake circle , distributed to over Han Others , to inform everybody in the autumn night the full moon in August , each family has uprising , kill Mongols . Yuan established the successful overthrow of the last Han Chinese Ming Dynasty , then in the annual Mid-Autumn Festival to eat moon cake as a souvenir.
Today, the annual Mid-Autumn Festival when the reunion , the family household is still eating bread full moon lights up to point things in life . In addition , many couples take Yash Liang-chen , and marriage , the so-called Elixir of Love , one more round .
At this Mid-Autumn Festival , full of poetic , when the moon cake fragrance , "Autumn "always gives a special feeling , especially in the Mid-Autumn of the moon , bright and clear in the How soft , Xi and gorgeous under the moonlight , so that Vicissitudes of life people are lamenting ! Facing the moon , unlimited recollections , and to express their emotions through words , so since ancient times , there are many poems famous poet scholars to write down , spread so far , people appreciate the praise , such as:
The spirit of cool people every wedding , mid-autumn moon is exceptionally bright . ( Ming . Awaken the common saying )
Life wedding event , when the spirit is always very cheerful cheer , just like the moon to the moon when it is particularly beautiful as the Ching Ming .
Fashion goes in cycles east , my country next month in the bitterly painful . ( Later Tang Dynasty . Li Yu )
Fashion goes in cycles winds blew east , mountains and rivers do not want to go back Yuan Wang 's native country , they are nothing but shine in the Mid-Autumn Festival moon . Remember the Cheng pulls , which worthy of looking back sad memories ? Endless grief !
This life is not long for this night is good, where next year to see the moon ? ( Song . Su Shi , Mid-Autumn Festival )
In my life , all of the Mid-Autumn Festival night, not always possible to see such a beautiful moon , but I do not know next year's tonight , where would appreciate the moon ?
Mid-Autumn Moon on the perception of the ancients , so praise and praise ! Thanks for the Memories and sad thought so ! They joy of life joys and sorrows , was shown on the moon , from the full moon reveals the exhaustive enjoy . "Life is hard on a few back to take the lead , " the moon of our Mid-Autumn Festival , think?
Poet David in full moon night , watching the moon alone the wonderful Li Jie , know that this is to create heaven and earth God created all things wonderful , but can not help but lament the praise of the heart :
Lord our Lord , ah, your name in all the How beautiful!
You have set your glory above the heavens . ...
I watch your fingers heavens, and your moon and the stars ,
They said: What is man that thou art mindful of him ?
What kind of world do you care for him ?
You made him a little lower than the angels , and hast crowned him with glory and honor .
You sent him management of your hands , so that everything is all the cattle and sheep ,
Beasts of the field , birds of the air , fish of the sea
The line where sea , and all under his feet.
Lord our Lord , ah, your name in all the How beautiful!
( Psalm chapter VIII )
Song Su ( Su ) in its book " Red Cliff " said: he and a guest in the Yangtze River rafting moon , the moon of the autumn night to see the beauty of natural scenery , it was the impermanence of life and short-term , " Grieve the sky as boundless admiration of the Yangtze River ", the so-called Red Cliff war hero generation of Cao Cao , " I of the male is also solid , but now security in the zai ? " can not " embrace Feixianguan to travel , hold the moon while the long end . "
Su of recollections , as Moses thought life is short , " but labor and sorrow , they quickly pass, and we fly away . " ( Psalm 90 10) has neglected this point , however, Su Wu , he said:
Customers understand that while the husband of water and almost month , lost time is never , and Wei Chang to have , empty or full, by Rubi , Er Cu Mo dynamics also ... but the river , the cool breeze and the mountains of the moon ... taken from no ban , inexhaustible, Tibet is also the creator of endless ...
Su life in the remote , although I do not know the purpose of life going, but recognize that from the nature of the existence of God the Creator : " However, the river breeze and the mountains of the moon ... taken from no ban , inexhaustible, is Tibet is also the creator of endless ... "This , as David praised " What is man that thou art mindful of him , you sent him manage all of your hands ... . " Apostle Paul in the Bible is the witness :
Since the creation of the world since God eternal power and divine nature are clearly seen , although the eye can not see , but with creatures, can know that men are without excuse . ( Bible, Romans chapter 20 )
But the world many people still do not believe God exists. They believe that while everything in the universe is a natural , non- God created . However, even a small table , are not natural and there is some manufacturing out of it ; that we human beings , but also the image of God according to His own created ( the Bible, Genesis Chapter 27 ) . Unfortunately, one result of crime, the right path, to worship the false idol of God , or believe in atheistic heresy , and even caught perish . However, " God so loved the world that His Son Jesus 〕 〔 gave them whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have eternal life " (John chapter 16) .
Dear friends ! We would like to enjoy the moon in the Mid-Autumn Festival , the yearning to create the wonderful love of God , go back to repentance to Him , He gives us enjoy the bliss of eternal life ; and let us pray to God , like His love, in this Mid-Autumn Moon Festival in highlight , to save people who are suffering from disaster , people have a God of comfort and hope . ( Cheung Kong and China )
Today, the annual Mid-Autumn Festival when the reunion , the family household is still eating bread full moon lights up to point things in life . In addition , many couples take Yash Liang-chen , and marriage , the so-called Elixir of Love , one more round .
At this Mid-Autumn Festival , full of poetic , when the moon cake fragrance , "Autumn "always gives a special feeling , especially in the Mid-Autumn of the moon , bright and clear in the How soft , Xi and gorgeous under the moonlight , so that Vicissitudes of life people are lamenting ! Facing the moon , unlimited recollections , and to express their emotions through words , so since ancient times , there are many poems famous poet scholars to write down , spread so far , people appreciate the praise , such as:
The spirit of cool people every wedding , mid-autumn moon is exceptionally bright . ( Ming . Awaken the common saying )
Life wedding event , when the spirit is always very cheerful cheer , just like the moon to the moon when it is particularly beautiful as the Ching Ming .
Fashion goes in cycles east , my country next month in the bitterly painful . ( Later Tang Dynasty . Li Yu )
Fashion goes in cycles winds blew east , mountains and rivers do not want to go back Yuan Wang 's native country , they are nothing but shine in the Mid-Autumn Festival moon . Remember the Cheng pulls , which worthy of looking back sad memories ? Endless grief !
This life is not long for this night is good, where next year to see the moon ? ( Song . Su Shi , Mid-Autumn Festival )
In my life , all of the Mid-Autumn Festival night, not always possible to see such a beautiful moon , but I do not know next year's tonight , where would appreciate the moon ?
Mid-Autumn Moon on the perception of the ancients , so praise and praise ! Thanks for the Memories and sad thought so ! They joy of life joys and sorrows , was shown on the moon , from the full moon reveals the exhaustive enjoy . "Life is hard on a few back to take the lead , " the moon of our Mid-Autumn Festival , think?
Poet David in full moon night , watching the moon alone the wonderful Li Jie , know that this is to create heaven and earth God created all things wonderful , but can not help but lament the praise of the heart :
Lord our Lord , ah, your name in all the How beautiful!
You have set your glory above the heavens . ...
I watch your fingers heavens, and your moon and the stars ,
They said: What is man that thou art mindful of him ?
What kind of world do you care for him ?
You made him a little lower than the angels , and hast crowned him with glory and honor .
You sent him management of your hands , so that everything is all the cattle and sheep ,
Beasts of the field , birds of the air , fish of the sea
The line where sea , and all under his feet.
Lord our Lord , ah, your name in all the How beautiful!
( Psalm chapter VIII )
Song Su ( Su ) in its book " Red Cliff " said: he and a guest in the Yangtze River rafting moon , the moon of the autumn night to see the beauty of natural scenery , it was the impermanence of life and short-term , " Grieve the sky as boundless admiration of the Yangtze River ", the so-called Red Cliff war hero generation of Cao Cao , " I of the male is also solid , but now security in the zai ? " can not " embrace Feixianguan to travel , hold the moon while the long end . "
Su of recollections , as Moses thought life is short , " but labor and sorrow , they quickly pass, and we fly away . " ( Psalm 90 10) has neglected this point , however, Su Wu , he said:
Customers understand that while the husband of water and almost month , lost time is never , and Wei Chang to have , empty or full, by Rubi , Er Cu Mo dynamics also ... but the river , the cool breeze and the mountains of the moon ... taken from no ban , inexhaustible, Tibet is also the creator of endless ...
Su life in the remote , although I do not know the purpose of life going, but recognize that from the nature of the existence of God the Creator : " However, the river breeze and the mountains of the moon ... taken from no ban , inexhaustible, is Tibet is also the creator of endless ... "This , as David praised " What is man that thou art mindful of him , you sent him manage all of your hands ... . " Apostle Paul in the Bible is the witness :
Since the creation of the world since God eternal power and divine nature are clearly seen , although the eye can not see , but with creatures, can know that men are without excuse . ( Bible, Romans chapter 20 )
But the world many people still do not believe God exists. They believe that while everything in the universe is a natural , non- God created . However, even a small table , are not natural and there is some manufacturing out of it ; that we human beings , but also the image of God according to His own created ( the Bible, Genesis Chapter 27 ) . Unfortunately, one result of crime, the right path, to worship the false idol of God , or believe in atheistic heresy , and even caught perish . However, " God so loved the world that His Son Jesus 〕 〔 gave them whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have eternal life " (John chapter 16) .
Dear friends ! We would like to enjoy the moon in the Mid-Autumn Festival , the yearning to create the wonderful love of God , go back to repentance to Him , He gives us enjoy the bliss of eternal life ; and let us pray to God , like His love, in this Mid-Autumn Moon Festival in highlight , to save people who are suffering from disaster , people have a God of comfort and hope . ( Cheung Kong and China )
2010年9月24日星期五
Christians should have 10 kinds of wealth consciousness
The world , materialistic ; the world , consumed by greed, all the money , no permanent friends , only permanent interests , what relations are unreliable , in addition to money, relationships , and the like so often in such times people often talked about as a Christian Should have the kind of wealth sense?
1 , Life is more important than wealth
Jesus said that a very classic , man if he gains the whole world and lose his own life , what is gained? Man give in exchange life? Thus , life is most precious ! Feed on dead birds , human financial death is a bit desolate , if not wisdom, ignore such words of Jesus learned and alert , then he will have a life doomed to lose money in the transaction : the former half , Yongming exchange for money ; later life , Money -for- life ; the end, both life and wealth through the ages , this kind of tragedy intensified , making the same mistakes are not uncommon . Remember the words of the Lord Jesus , life does not consist in wealth .
2 , the limited function of wealth
Limited set of wealthAwarenessAbandon the universal wealth and wealth of useless
Binary opposition of material and spiritual theology lead to degrade the material wealth, that the poorer the more spiritual , the concept that ignores cultural mission will allow the community to stay in the primitive stage , so the church has been increasingly pushed to the edge of modern society, the state of Christ Only to start his own hands to create wealth and contribute to society , impact on society .
But the wealth of the supremacy of universal moneyAwarenessIs inappropriate . Some of the value of life is not measured only by wealth alone can not earn money and live we do not belittle the role of wealth , but not the value of wealth opposeth and exalteth .
Wealth of valuable, can function , but limited role is the fact that wealth can buy a mansion , but can not buy family . Wealth can buy excellent ivory bed, but can not get excellent sleep . Wealth can buy food, but not health . Wealth can buy real goods, but can not buy true . Wealth can buy entertainment , but can not buy happiness . Wall Street was interviewed 100 wealthy boss , more than 90 people say they are not unhappy . Eternal happiness is not wealth, love and so be able to exchange for .
3 , wealth is God's gift
Mass 5:19 that God gives people money and wealth , but God's grace that the Bible says , The blessing of God, rich people , but not with anxiety . Wealth is not the root of all evil , love of money is the root of all evil The problem is not financial word word in greed . Wealth is not a crime , otherwise there would be no dedication of property owned by the Bible to God , Save money in the days of teaching .
4 , I'll make , in a proper way
Love can not lose money gentleman strength of character , the key is making money fair and square . The Bible says , his own hands for serious cause (Eph 4:28 ) is not love of money is not speculative and risky investment can not be blind , can not be rejected desperately to make money fast make money (Proverbs 28:20,22 ) flourishes of wealthAwareness, be careful , covetousness (Luke 12:51 ) not to steal is not fraud, not for ill-gotten wealth (Proverbs 16:8 ), rather give up wealth, not give up credit ; rather give up their lives , not without witness . Not for non- workers obtained the money , for example by taking bribes kickbacks . The Bible says , not workers obtained the money, inevitably consumed ; diligent savings , will see additional growth (Proverbs 13:11 ) settle down and earn the bread they eat ( Thessalonians 3:12) , keen and eaten hard gvc And happy to earn money openly so Christians need to clear out of the Bible training , legal reasonably earn .
5 , do not envy the rich , not hatred of the rich
Rich or poor people 's sovereignty in the hands of God , God will put a lot of wealth there is the faithful and wise (with financial management capability and wisdom ) in the hands of the righteous . Although there have been a sinner , when financial control , but the sinner will end the financial resources for the accumulation of the righteous (Proverbs 13:22 ) , the Bible clearly remember God has completed several major reversal of wealth : the wealth of Egypt 's treasury for the prime minister Joseph accumulation of food management , Israel Moses led the people out of Egypt when Egypt took a lot of property , unity of the Kingdom of prosperous countries in the wealth when the quartet tribute to Solomon , the end of wealth management for the righteous , it is the owner of the wealth of God are meant the plan .
In many cases such a situation would arise , not many people had received the five , received two more , leading up to 1000 do not envy the rich , God, the division of the ability of us , as faithful people in the little things To be eligible for management affairs , God will not give us too much wealth , so can not make the right use . Not to hatred of the rich , many to whom , to whom many on the take ; much care who , on whom more to (Luke 12:48 ) asked of us is faithful management of the wealth received from God , give full play to its value Good .
Also to be mentioned here is that there should be given to him, not even what he has will be taken of Matthew , need to add another one by training , so as not bigger wealth gap condition Gini coefficient , told you more than can be given to those missing people. People really need the power to promote his faith more than the time to practice to give to him who , when some people get rich earlier to get rich after practice to help most people , so as to achieve common prosperity , to achieve harmony .
6, we are trustees of wealth , God is the owner of wealth
Our sovereignty is not the highest , the ultimate ownership is not in us , not to say that wealth is mine, we came naked , but also passed away empty-handed , therefore, precisely, God entrusted to our wealth management, or that we from him Borrow in the future to account for him that we are stewards of God's property . God can be loyal and trust our intelligence to financial management . Our guiding principle is the only financial management : how would Jesus do ? (What would Jesus do?) with this problem seriously ask ourselves , then answer to the question strictly in accordance with the implementation .
7 , wealth is a good servant and bad masters
Martin Luther said that man can have property , but must understand that good management, so property owners to use the wealth , but wealth can not be used , how should it be used? Bo Jinsi has pointed out that the distribution of wealth should be on the following seven areas to reach its full potential : the glory of God saved the soul of the industry, we maintain our good family support to help the poor relatives of the benefits of the Church in support of national wealth, the purpose to achieve the seven Can not be lovers of themselves, can not satisfy their indulgence with the pleasures of wealth show of conceit so desires . To take into account my family ( relatives of the needs of family members ) family of God ( the church body needs) countries ( social needs of the people ) heaven ( Evangelical needs)
8, can not be obscene wealth , and rank can not be moved
Job is one such person in the rich but when , not forgetting the fear of God , and eschewed evil , full of integrity Embarrassment in abjection , when , still not abandoned God, continue to maintain its purity . Joseph is such a person , won the masters at the time of trust and high regard , not despise her mistress , not to offend God ; to be stigmatized as prisoner , still has not changed his beliefs , without complaints to believe in God ; when Above a million people under one prime minister , when countless wealth nor high on the hog , not indulge sensual , no extravagant contrast to the broad compassion to save people out of Egypt and neighboring countries from the famine crisis .
Life of an ever changing , when the office east of the river , when the Department Hexi , rich and poor can not rely on it in no uncertain given the wealth of those who Gan Lock Road will be facing poor air migang sing doxology , not hatred of the rich psychological , not complain about rage , Still full of confidence to rely on Houci soaring people of God, convinced that Heaven must be a way to work hard and are eventually harvested , feeding Elijah Crow is still flying in the sky today , a sparrow God Shangju take notice , not to mention more than sparrows Expensive and more people? God will certainly take notice . And if not, nothing on , and the Job at the time of praise singing: The LORD gave , received the Lord , Blessed be the name of the Lord of wealthAwarenessCertainly reflects a person's spiritual circumstances , can reflect the inherent quality of a person when in the humble , not a handout , This is Masculinity is also directed away from several coins sold his conscience , betraying the truth and the seller to their friends, Lose their position , lost when some of the principles , lost their moral conduct would like to get 30 dollars went to the seller of the Jews to have several sets of clothes on the meaning of Gehazi lied to the owner , is warning of Negative example.
Something to say , hungry crime, fed and warm, think lust . Although food is known Depository courtesy , but when people do not know Depository food when there will be courtesy of the possible, the time when people would have quite cold and hunger and evil may follow . Prayers Wisdom Road , but you make false and lies far from me, so I'm not poor , not rich , given my need to diet . I am afraid I do not believe you are filling , said the Lord who? Also I am afraid I poverty to steal, so profane the name of my God ( Proverbs 30:8-9 ) do have a certain amount of wealth accumulation , no less , so we do not corrupt the proportion of deposits can not steal For the Prime Minister about the light Joseph ratio of 20% stocks .
9 , do make every product to make facilities
This is the wealth of John Wesley madeAwarenessAnd complete to say is, do what you can make money , do your best to save , do what you can contribute .
God rewards the diligent , God does not help the lazy people who can not rest on its laurels , because the wine glutton will come to poverty . Good sleep , will be poorly clothed (Proverbs 23:21 ) In order to avoid your poverty , you will be like a bandit to your lack of like an armed man (Proverbs 24:34 ) , to improve their comprehensive Quality, active equipment, study hard , mining potential, practical work, to earn wealth , improving the economic situation and quality of life this wealth is labor in the very understandable , not pie falling from the sky dream of come .
Some people say that money is earned , not out of the province . But it was said, Qinjianchijia , Qin Jian Fang is the household with the road . Kim and Germany to support the teaching of today has the same build -saving society to achieve sustainable development can not be abused to lose, and to promote simple simple life it is necessary a lot of time, because the comparisons of vanity , greed, lust and other interference , can not Distinguish their own needs (NEED) , and you want to (WANT), wrong to luxury as a necessity to pursue this end, consumer debt purse overdraft facility to meet the desires I buy , therefore I am the consumer age , the value of purchasing power as their own Measure, the reason that basic necessities will be seeking to buy brand-name high end of the day , anti is by material should focus on cultivating the Holy Spirit in the lives of nine knot -like fruit is the same as the last romantic restraint not to waste , do not enjoy the pleasure .
We will save because of the accumulated wealth to make facilities more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35 ) God bless the life of the law is the life and property of those who give up tightly with , you will lose ; dedicated to God, you Will have the Bible says , There is that scattereth, and yet adds (Proverbs 11:24 ) This is the world's most ancient and seemingly contradictory maxim , but it does go well in addition to tithing God but also Should donate to help the needy people we used to calculate the cost of sacrifice , not to calculate the cost of compassion not sacrifice the poor , is to lend his good deeds the Lord , the Lord will repay Zhou Ji of poverty , not lack of paradox is missing , Will be more than a curse To do this, you can not gripping start to let go , be rich in good , generous and willing to supply people, for themselves a good foundation , prepare the future, so we take hold of that real life the United States Puritan philanthropist Carnegie , who are left behind and not in the lifetime wealth of dedicated people out there who will , will be spurned by the people , said the oil giant Rockefeller , dead rich, is a scandal , if not the best make every product and facilities , Gelang on the desktop will become a miser , and his laugh
10 upheld tithing
About the contributions of new systems to tithing as a starting point in other words , it should be about more than even a new training standards by no less than the Old Testament Jesus did not abolish the law, but how Shing Chuen Shing Chuen law 's ? Who keep the whole law and not by righteousness , but by the law of Christ that meets all requirements of justice and righteousness simply, we can not keep the whole law, and by relying on the grace of justification does not mean that Ryan Righteous, we can destroy the law , and such as the Old Testament are meant to tithing , Jesus never destroy .
Jesus has reproached the hypocrites say , you will mint fennel celery , offer one-tenth of that law on the more important thing is that justice and mercy faithful , but you neglect the more important is that you walk in ; it is not Does not work ( too 23:23 ) where Jesus confessed, can not offer one tenth does not work, just a matter of justice and mercy faithful even more important matter of even a minor one , nor the scribes and Pharisees, not yet Can do even one , we not when even more ? Bible demands our righteousness to be better than the scribes and Pharisees, the meaning of Christ dedicated his life to us, he loved me and gave himself for me , such love inspire us , will give myself a living sacrifice , Whole person ( including the physical and spiritual wealth of talent and time ) devoted to the main front , which is natural if one-tenth of the money worldly possessions are unwilling to offer , presented the body lies, I hope that we have followed is to talk about the power of each Or through the power to sacrifice , before that , according to God 's will to put its own to the Lord I only hope that God 's grace given the Macedonian churches have given to us , showing the grace of donate , so we are content to Repeatedly begged to ( Corinthians 8:1-5 ) to God and his gospel fee financial trouble ( Corinthians 12:15 )
1 , Life is more important than wealth
Jesus said that a very classic , man if he gains the whole world and lose his own life , what is gained? Man give in exchange life? Thus , life is most precious ! Feed on dead birds , human financial death is a bit desolate , if not wisdom, ignore such words of Jesus learned and alert , then he will have a life doomed to lose money in the transaction : the former half , Yongming exchange for money ; later life , Money -for- life ; the end, both life and wealth through the ages , this kind of tragedy intensified , making the same mistakes are not uncommon . Remember the words of the Lord Jesus , life does not consist in wealth .
2 , the limited function of wealth
Limited set of wealthAwarenessAbandon the universal wealth and wealth of useless
Binary opposition of material and spiritual theology lead to degrade the material wealth, that the poorer the more spiritual , the concept that ignores cultural mission will allow the community to stay in the primitive stage , so the church has been increasingly pushed to the edge of modern society, the state of Christ Only to start his own hands to create wealth and contribute to society , impact on society .
But the wealth of the supremacy of universal moneyAwarenessIs inappropriate . Some of the value of life is not measured only by wealth alone can not earn money and live we do not belittle the role of wealth , but not the value of wealth opposeth and exalteth .
Wealth of valuable, can function , but limited role is the fact that wealth can buy a mansion , but can not buy family . Wealth can buy excellent ivory bed, but can not get excellent sleep . Wealth can buy food, but not health . Wealth can buy real goods, but can not buy true . Wealth can buy entertainment , but can not buy happiness . Wall Street was interviewed 100 wealthy boss , more than 90 people say they are not unhappy . Eternal happiness is not wealth, love and so be able to exchange for .
3 , wealth is God's gift
Mass 5:19 that God gives people money and wealth , but God's grace that the Bible says , The blessing of God, rich people , but not with anxiety . Wealth is not the root of all evil , love of money is the root of all evil The problem is not financial word word in greed . Wealth is not a crime , otherwise there would be no dedication of property owned by the Bible to God , Save money in the days of teaching .
4 , I'll make , in a proper way
Love can not lose money gentleman strength of character , the key is making money fair and square . The Bible says , his own hands for serious cause (Eph 4:28 ) is not love of money is not speculative and risky investment can not be blind , can not be rejected desperately to make money fast make money (Proverbs 28:20,22 ) flourishes of wealthAwareness, be careful , covetousness (Luke 12:51 ) not to steal is not fraud, not for ill-gotten wealth (Proverbs 16:8 ), rather give up wealth, not give up credit ; rather give up their lives , not without witness . Not for non- workers obtained the money , for example by taking bribes kickbacks . The Bible says , not workers obtained the money, inevitably consumed ; diligent savings , will see additional growth (Proverbs 13:11 ) settle down and earn the bread they eat ( Thessalonians 3:12) , keen and eaten hard gvc And happy to earn money openly so Christians need to clear out of the Bible training , legal reasonably earn .
5 , do not envy the rich , not hatred of the rich
Rich or poor people 's sovereignty in the hands of God , God will put a lot of wealth there is the faithful and wise (with financial management capability and wisdom ) in the hands of the righteous . Although there have been a sinner , when financial control , but the sinner will end the financial resources for the accumulation of the righteous (Proverbs 13:22 ) , the Bible clearly remember God has completed several major reversal of wealth : the wealth of Egypt 's treasury for the prime minister Joseph accumulation of food management , Israel Moses led the people out of Egypt when Egypt took a lot of property , unity of the Kingdom of prosperous countries in the wealth when the quartet tribute to Solomon , the end of wealth management for the righteous , it is the owner of the wealth of God are meant the plan .
In many cases such a situation would arise , not many people had received the five , received two more , leading up to 1000 do not envy the rich , God, the division of the ability of us , as faithful people in the little things To be eligible for management affairs , God will not give us too much wealth , so can not make the right use . Not to hatred of the rich , many to whom , to whom many on the take ; much care who , on whom more to (Luke 12:48 ) asked of us is faithful management of the wealth received from God , give full play to its value Good .
Also to be mentioned here is that there should be given to him, not even what he has will be taken of Matthew , need to add another one by training , so as not bigger wealth gap condition Gini coefficient , told you more than can be given to those missing people. People really need the power to promote his faith more than the time to practice to give to him who , when some people get rich earlier to get rich after practice to help most people , so as to achieve common prosperity , to achieve harmony .
6, we are trustees of wealth , God is the owner of wealth
Our sovereignty is not the highest , the ultimate ownership is not in us , not to say that wealth is mine, we came naked , but also passed away empty-handed , therefore, precisely, God entrusted to our wealth management, or that we from him Borrow in the future to account for him that we are stewards of God's property . God can be loyal and trust our intelligence to financial management . Our guiding principle is the only financial management : how would Jesus do ? (What would Jesus do?) with this problem seriously ask ourselves , then answer to the question strictly in accordance with the implementation .
7 , wealth is a good servant and bad masters
Martin Luther said that man can have property , but must understand that good management, so property owners to use the wealth , but wealth can not be used , how should it be used? Bo Jinsi has pointed out that the distribution of wealth should be on the following seven areas to reach its full potential : the glory of God saved the soul of the industry, we maintain our good family support to help the poor relatives of the benefits of the Church in support of national wealth, the purpose to achieve the seven Can not be lovers of themselves, can not satisfy their indulgence with the pleasures of wealth show of conceit so desires . To take into account my family ( relatives of the needs of family members ) family of God ( the church body needs) countries ( social needs of the people ) heaven ( Evangelical needs)
8, can not be obscene wealth , and rank can not be moved
Job is one such person in the rich but when , not forgetting the fear of God , and eschewed evil , full of integrity Embarrassment in abjection , when , still not abandoned God, continue to maintain its purity . Joseph is such a person , won the masters at the time of trust and high regard , not despise her mistress , not to offend God ; to be stigmatized as prisoner , still has not changed his beliefs , without complaints to believe in God ; when Above a million people under one prime minister , when countless wealth nor high on the hog , not indulge sensual , no extravagant contrast to the broad compassion to save people out of Egypt and neighboring countries from the famine crisis .
Life of an ever changing , when the office east of the river , when the Department Hexi , rich and poor can not rely on it in no uncertain given the wealth of those who Gan Lock Road will be facing poor air migang sing doxology , not hatred of the rich psychological , not complain about rage , Still full of confidence to rely on Houci soaring people of God, convinced that Heaven must be a way to work hard and are eventually harvested , feeding Elijah Crow is still flying in the sky today , a sparrow God Shangju take notice , not to mention more than sparrows Expensive and more people? God will certainly take notice . And if not, nothing on , and the Job at the time of praise singing: The LORD gave , received the Lord , Blessed be the name of the Lord of wealthAwarenessCertainly reflects a person's spiritual circumstances , can reflect the inherent quality of a person when in the humble , not a handout , This is Masculinity is also directed away from several coins sold his conscience , betraying the truth and the seller to their friends, Lose their position , lost when some of the principles , lost their moral conduct would like to get 30 dollars went to the seller of the Jews to have several sets of clothes on the meaning of Gehazi lied to the owner , is warning of Negative example.
Something to say , hungry crime, fed and warm, think lust . Although food is known Depository courtesy , but when people do not know Depository food when there will be courtesy of the possible, the time when people would have quite cold and hunger and evil may follow . Prayers Wisdom Road , but you make false and lies far from me, so I'm not poor , not rich , given my need to diet . I am afraid I do not believe you are filling , said the Lord who? Also I am afraid I poverty to steal, so profane the name of my God ( Proverbs 30:8-9 ) do have a certain amount of wealth accumulation , no less , so we do not corrupt the proportion of deposits can not steal For the Prime Minister about the light Joseph ratio of 20% stocks .
9 , do make every product to make facilities
This is the wealth of John Wesley madeAwarenessAnd complete to say is, do what you can make money , do your best to save , do what you can contribute .
God rewards the diligent , God does not help the lazy people who can not rest on its laurels , because the wine glutton will come to poverty . Good sleep , will be poorly clothed (Proverbs 23:21 ) In order to avoid your poverty , you will be like a bandit to your lack of like an armed man (Proverbs 24:34 ) , to improve their comprehensive Quality, active equipment, study hard , mining potential, practical work, to earn wealth , improving the economic situation and quality of life this wealth is labor in the very understandable , not pie falling from the sky dream of come .
Some people say that money is earned , not out of the province . But it was said, Qinjianchijia , Qin Jian Fang is the household with the road . Kim and Germany to support the teaching of today has the same build -saving society to achieve sustainable development can not be abused to lose, and to promote simple simple life it is necessary a lot of time, because the comparisons of vanity , greed, lust and other interference , can not Distinguish their own needs (NEED) , and you want to (WANT), wrong to luxury as a necessity to pursue this end, consumer debt purse overdraft facility to meet the desires I buy , therefore I am the consumer age , the value of purchasing power as their own Measure, the reason that basic necessities will be seeking to buy brand-name high end of the day , anti is by material should focus on cultivating the Holy Spirit in the lives of nine knot -like fruit is the same as the last romantic restraint not to waste , do not enjoy the pleasure .
We will save because of the accumulated wealth to make facilities more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35 ) God bless the life of the law is the life and property of those who give up tightly with , you will lose ; dedicated to God, you Will have the Bible says , There is that scattereth, and yet adds (Proverbs 11:24 ) This is the world's most ancient and seemingly contradictory maxim , but it does go well in addition to tithing God but also Should donate to help the needy people we used to calculate the cost of sacrifice , not to calculate the cost of compassion not sacrifice the poor , is to lend his good deeds the Lord , the Lord will repay Zhou Ji of poverty , not lack of paradox is missing , Will be more than a curse To do this, you can not gripping start to let go , be rich in good , generous and willing to supply people, for themselves a good foundation , prepare the future, so we take hold of that real life the United States Puritan philanthropist Carnegie , who are left behind and not in the lifetime wealth of dedicated people out there who will , will be spurned by the people , said the oil giant Rockefeller , dead rich, is a scandal , if not the best make every product and facilities , Gelang on the desktop will become a miser , and his laugh
10 upheld tithing
About the contributions of new systems to tithing as a starting point in other words , it should be about more than even a new training standards by no less than the Old Testament Jesus did not abolish the law, but how Shing Chuen Shing Chuen law 's ? Who keep the whole law and not by righteousness , but by the law of Christ that meets all requirements of justice and righteousness simply, we can not keep the whole law, and by relying on the grace of justification does not mean that Ryan Righteous, we can destroy the law , and such as the Old Testament are meant to tithing , Jesus never destroy .
Jesus has reproached the hypocrites say , you will mint fennel celery , offer one-tenth of that law on the more important thing is that justice and mercy faithful , but you neglect the more important is that you walk in ; it is not Does not work ( too 23:23 ) where Jesus confessed, can not offer one tenth does not work, just a matter of justice and mercy faithful even more important matter of even a minor one , nor the scribes and Pharisees, not yet Can do even one , we not when even more ? Bible demands our righteousness to be better than the scribes and Pharisees, the meaning of Christ dedicated his life to us, he loved me and gave himself for me , such love inspire us , will give myself a living sacrifice , Whole person ( including the physical and spiritual wealth of talent and time ) devoted to the main front , which is natural if one-tenth of the money worldly possessions are unwilling to offer , presented the body lies, I hope that we have followed is to talk about the power of each Or through the power to sacrifice , before that , according to God 's will to put its own to the Lord I only hope that God 's grace given the Macedonian churches have given to us , showing the grace of donate , so we are content to Repeatedly begged to ( Corinthians 8:1-5 ) to God and his gospel fee financial trouble ( Corinthians 12:15 )
2010年9月19日星期日
Understand the purpose of families
A few weekends ago, my husband and I to host family and marriage Tienmu Camp , on the way home I was tired enough to sleep , but the heart is to meet with joy , knowing that many couples in this day studying the Bible on marriage The right to teach , and re- ignite hope of marriage . While in the car my husband and I did not talk , but it can feel deep in our hearts to God thanksgiving ; Although no silent prayer , praise and worship , but all with one great , wonderful God ; even in sleep , my heart still Immersed in the love and joy , the do know what we do will be retained in eternity .
Care to complete the mission in life
Married two years, we enjoyed the most is not only enjoy each other , love each other , even both of them to complete the Great Commission issued by the Lord to join the ranks can together peers . I am in high school , he accepted the U.S. work with Campus Crusade for Christ 's teachings about marriage : the three most important in life there are M, the first is the master, who is Lord of my life . The second is the mission, what is my mission in life . Third mate, who is my life partner . I decided my main mission , the mission of my Lord and my partner decided . I should find a mission in life and have the same mission with me , and serve , to follow the Lord .
If I just focus on finding a partner , while ignoring the life and mission of the Lord into the marriage, personal well-being after the single goal of gender how long the appeal without fading Bian Jiang , self-centered Physiognomy revealed in The details of life , friction and conflict is the inevitable outcome.
Jesus said to His disciples before His ascension : " All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me . So go and make disciples of all people to do what I , on instructions from the Father , Son and Holy Spirit in the name of them to be baptized . everything I have commanded You are teaching them to obey , I will always be with you until the end of the world . " (Matthew 20 chapters comprising 18 to 20 ) Jesus clearly the most important for us to set a life goal ; not only Live their lives , but to make all people understand the love of God and become disciples of Christ. Some people may misunderstand that this way of life is very hard , sacrificed much , but this is actually the most joy and satisfaction , and to bring us the greatest happiness.
Proverbs 20 IX 18 , said: " Without a vision, people perish . "This statement also explains that if man can not see or do not know what God wanted him to do , he do not know where to go . English Bible, the " wanton , " translated as perish, that is " destroyed " was intended. Similarly, if a family of God to understand the purpose of its existence , it will move toward indulgence , or destructive path. This is worth a serious look at issues. Today God to man and a woman into marriage, having children , not only for them to have a happy life and to be blessed by the family to the people around .
Concerted efforts to spread God's Love
Two sons still young, we teach them God on our family 's mission , from kindergarten until the country , every year for their students to Juban gospel get-together , they know to school , not only to reading, is In order to share God's love and classmates . Sometimes they came home from school to see the strange visitors , and guests will be asked after the kick down greeted me: "You preach the gospel to her yet? "They know that every person entering our house must have the opportunity to hear the gospel , because This is our family 's mission .
Son of primary school , there are times I read a book , the book of heaven beauty of the heart to long for , they said: "I really want to return to heaven now ! "I never thought his son was , said: " Mummy, You also can not go , because there are many taxi drivers do not believe in Jesus Uncle ah ! "So he always saw me in the taxi drivers talk to the Gospel , so that it is my most important responsibility. Now he has been to university , and school less than two weeks , six students and seniors have the gospel and lead the four of them made decisions to accept the Lord . In the move to school before he prayed: " Thank the Lord gave me this school , I want to be you use. "
U.S. President Richard Nixon after Watergate meditation for many years , wrote in his memoirs : " You have to order an ideal greater than themselves live , or you'll miss life 's most exciting and valuable experience; only in the realization of this ideal The process of losing their own , you may actually find it . "
When parents and their children in the family work together to complete the great mission entrusted to the Lord , to spread God's Love , this is the most meaningful and valuable human things . A few days ago , the son of the junior students to visit us ; I have counseled him to school for two years . He is currently an apprentice in the engineering company , have a steady income and his mother wanted him to come to me specifically thank . That night , we pray for a young family with the heart is overflowing joy , knowing that our participation in God 's great plan to save the world , we have done , will be retained in eternity .
Care to complete the mission in life
Married two years, we enjoyed the most is not only enjoy each other , love each other , even both of them to complete the Great Commission issued by the Lord to join the ranks can together peers . I am in high school , he accepted the U.S. work with Campus Crusade for Christ 's teachings about marriage : the three most important in life there are M, the first is the master, who is Lord of my life . The second is the mission, what is my mission in life . Third mate, who is my life partner . I decided my main mission , the mission of my Lord and my partner decided . I should find a mission in life and have the same mission with me , and serve , to follow the Lord .
If I just focus on finding a partner , while ignoring the life and mission of the Lord into the marriage, personal well-being after the single goal of gender how long the appeal without fading Bian Jiang , self-centered Physiognomy revealed in The details of life , friction and conflict is the inevitable outcome.
Jesus said to His disciples before His ascension : " All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me . So go and make disciples of all people to do what I , on instructions from the Father , Son and Holy Spirit in the name of them to be baptized . everything I have commanded You are teaching them to obey , I will always be with you until the end of the world . " (Matthew 20 chapters comprising 18 to 20 ) Jesus clearly the most important for us to set a life goal ; not only Live their lives , but to make all people understand the love of God and become disciples of Christ. Some people may misunderstand that this way of life is very hard , sacrificed much , but this is actually the most joy and satisfaction , and to bring us the greatest happiness.
Proverbs 20 IX 18 , said: " Without a vision, people perish . "This statement also explains that if man can not see or do not know what God wanted him to do , he do not know where to go . English Bible, the " wanton , " translated as perish, that is " destroyed " was intended. Similarly, if a family of God to understand the purpose of its existence , it will move toward indulgence , or destructive path. This is worth a serious look at issues. Today God to man and a woman into marriage, having children , not only for them to have a happy life and to be blessed by the family to the people around .
Concerted efforts to spread God's Love
Two sons still young, we teach them God on our family 's mission , from kindergarten until the country , every year for their students to Juban gospel get-together , they know to school , not only to reading, is In order to share God's love and classmates . Sometimes they came home from school to see the strange visitors , and guests will be asked after the kick down greeted me: "You preach the gospel to her yet? "They know that every person entering our house must have the opportunity to hear the gospel , because This is our family 's mission .
Son of primary school , there are times I read a book , the book of heaven beauty of the heart to long for , they said: "I really want to return to heaven now ! "I never thought his son was , said: " Mummy, You also can not go , because there are many taxi drivers do not believe in Jesus Uncle ah ! "So he always saw me in the taxi drivers talk to the Gospel , so that it is my most important responsibility. Now he has been to university , and school less than two weeks , six students and seniors have the gospel and lead the four of them made decisions to accept the Lord . In the move to school before he prayed: " Thank the Lord gave me this school , I want to be you use. "
U.S. President Richard Nixon after Watergate meditation for many years , wrote in his memoirs : " You have to order an ideal greater than themselves live , or you'll miss life 's most exciting and valuable experience; only in the realization of this ideal The process of losing their own , you may actually find it . "
When parents and their children in the family work together to complete the great mission entrusted to the Lord , to spread God's Love , this is the most meaningful and valuable human things . A few days ago , the son of the junior students to visit us ; I have counseled him to school for two years . He is currently an apprentice in the engineering company , have a steady income and his mother wanted him to come to me specifically thank . That night , we pray for a young family with the heart is overflowing joy , knowing that our participation in God 's great plan to save the world , we have done , will be retained in eternity .
2010年9月7日星期二
Works wonders
Proverbs Chapter 3-5 Chapter 2 Corinthians 1
2008年11U.S. Supreme Court on whether to start a debate on use of constitutional restrictions on bad language . Federal Communications Commission to a certain national broadcaster , for example, the two performers allow the company to use the program frequently used bad language 2 . ABC argued that bad language fleeting , and is not sexually explicit words , should not be punished . Some people were against it, that we have a responsibility to protect children do not listen to that kind of language .
There is no doubt the church in Ephesus , there will be no dispute can not be swearing . Paul taught his followers to respond to grace and salvation by Christ was born to prove one way , is careful to speak (4Chapter29节）
Paul did not want them to live according to past ways , do not want to damage they say , unhealthy , obscene words , or malicious , defamatory rumors , and anything that would hurt others , divisive remarks. He hoped that the believers at Ephesus , when in need , that help people , has for good words , good to those who called the hearing .
As a follower of Jesus Christ, the hope from our hearts and mouth emission source of life. Also hope that all who hear the words we have been blessed .MW
Pray my mouth ,
Day control of my tongue ;
Help me test my ideas
Daily I said cautiously .Hess
2010年9月6日星期一
The power of love
Dear friends , I do not know whether you heard of this saying : if you are a millionaire , if you do not have friends , you are still the world's poorest people. How to become your friend good friends? Mr. Carnegie , " How to win friends and influence friends " in this book that the nine tips for making friends .
First, not judge , curse and complain about your friends .
Second, real , sincere encouragement, appreciate your friends.
Third, we should always induce his automatic , spontaneous .
Fourth, the sincere interest and interest to a friend .
Fifth, we should always smiled at him .
Sixth , we must remember that on my friends, is the best in the world to hear his name .
Seventh, to do a faithful listener .
Eighth, we must have been interested .
Ninth , to make friends feel that he is very important.
Dear friends , you 've heard it said it? "Some people went around looking for friends, asking many can not find a friend ; some friends around to do his good friends everywhere . " Let us learn to be friends of friends .
In today's " embrace of small language ", the process of maple and you want to share my dear friends, is a place in the Second World War a true story.
World War II , when the border in Spain there is a rugged mountain area . In the village there, gathered a lot of men and women , they are all controlled from the German Nazi secret police, the army men to escape , to flee to freedom of the French refugees . In this group of refugees , a young mother with a year-old girl , they intend to first Spain, then from there by boat to the United States . Otherwise, the Gestapo if they are caught , they will put into concentration camps , maybe it will kill them .
Traveled hundreds of miles, to here , although freedom is at hand , but it seems necessary to begin with , because the Spanish army is very stubborn , not to refugees who fled in the past . Then rumors , I heard that the secret police soon came to be living in the nearby strangers with appropriate identification , without identification should be locked up . The young mothers holding little girl , silently praying that God will rescue them . You may think how can it be clever , because the next day , a single man with a secret mission to the mother's room and said to her : "I am as a guide for underground work , I will lead the month when a group of black refugees Across the mountains to Spain. This is a long and arduous journey , but God help us. you can go to the mountains to find us. "
That night , Deep Night , people fall into deep sleep , the mother and daughter went to the place agreed upon the hillside . However, small children , take a little road tired, to the mother carrying her. At the appointed place , the mother has been exhausted . , Where a crowd of people , elderly , middle-aged , youth , men and women , we all waiting for someone to take them through the mountains, toward freedom . Lead the way for people to tell them that this is only a try in the road to ruin in the risk , we must trust in God .
At this time , we see that to a mother and daughter , they welcome them to join , but immediately turns back the little girl was . In this way, they crawl all the way up the mountain , the more they climb higher , we all feel a bit much. Come later , the oldest , the weakest physically , they can not help but groan issued . He said: " I walk up . " stagger stagger stagger away with a few steps and fell down . He told us that : "leave me , keep me here , well let me die here , and you save his life must bear . " listening to the leader 's left over, firmly and enthusiastically said: " However , You do not die , we must help each other. No matter how much power you have left , all belong to the people . come up with a final power to help you with this little girl, until you die. "
Three successive encounter such things , there are three elderly people to give up , but every leader should have persisted in their efforts to lead out the last little girl .
Wait until the morning light beginning to bear , they have crossed the peak , over the border to another state. This large group of people , everyone alive and very spiritual . The three elderly people to lead this little girl because actually created a new power , new life , also saw the new world of freedom .
First, not judge , curse and complain about your friends .
Second, real , sincere encouragement, appreciate your friends.
Third, we should always induce his automatic , spontaneous .
Fourth, the sincere interest and interest to a friend .
Fifth, we should always smiled at him .
Sixth , we must remember that on my friends, is the best in the world to hear his name .
Seventh, to do a faithful listener .
Eighth, we must have been interested .
Ninth , to make friends feel that he is very important.
Dear friends , you 've heard it said it? "Some people went around looking for friends, asking many can not find a friend ; some friends around to do his good friends everywhere . " Let us learn to be friends of friends .
In today's " embrace of small language ", the process of maple and you want to share my dear friends, is a place in the Second World War a true story.
World War II , when the border in Spain there is a rugged mountain area . In the village there, gathered a lot of men and women , they are all controlled from the German Nazi secret police, the army men to escape , to flee to freedom of the French refugees . In this group of refugees , a young mother with a year-old girl , they intend to first Spain, then from there by boat to the United States . Otherwise, the Gestapo if they are caught , they will put into concentration camps , maybe it will kill them .
Traveled hundreds of miles, to here , although freedom is at hand , but it seems necessary to begin with , because the Spanish army is very stubborn , not to refugees who fled in the past . Then rumors , I heard that the secret police soon came to be living in the nearby strangers with appropriate identification , without identification should be locked up . The young mothers holding little girl , silently praying that God will rescue them . You may think how can it be clever , because the next day , a single man with a secret mission to the mother's room and said to her : "I am as a guide for underground work , I will lead the month when a group of black refugees Across the mountains to Spain. This is a long and arduous journey , but God help us. you can go to the mountains to find us. "
That night , Deep Night , people fall into deep sleep , the mother and daughter went to the place agreed upon the hillside . However, small children , take a little road tired, to the mother carrying her. At the appointed place , the mother has been exhausted . , Where a crowd of people , elderly , middle-aged , youth , men and women , we all waiting for someone to take them through the mountains, toward freedom . Lead the way for people to tell them that this is only a try in the road to ruin in the risk , we must trust in God .
At this time , we see that to a mother and daughter , they welcome them to join , but immediately turns back the little girl was . In this way, they crawl all the way up the mountain , the more they climb higher , we all feel a bit much. Come later , the oldest , the weakest physically , they can not help but groan issued . He said: " I walk up . " stagger stagger stagger away with a few steps and fell down . He told us that : "leave me , keep me here , well let me die here , and you save his life must bear . " listening to the leader 's left over, firmly and enthusiastically said: " However , You do not die , we must help each other. No matter how much power you have left , all belong to the people . come up with a final power to help you with this little girl, until you die. "
Three successive encounter such things , there are three elderly people to give up , but every leader should have persisted in their efforts to lead out the last little girl .
Wait until the morning light beginning to bear , they have crossed the peak , over the border to another state. This large group of people , everyone alive and very spiritual . The three elderly people to lead this little girl because actually created a new power , new life , also saw the new world of freedom .
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How to grow and develop along with adolescent children ( 2 )
Children from childhood into adolescence , when there will be many changes, mothers and daughters talk to some of some of the physiological and psychological changes , or make the opposite sex thing. Father, the child must have very clear principles of discipline , their kids will learn to know how to do an exercise self-discipline , know how to respect themselves and know how responsible the child . Not just pay attention to their parents, their children 's performance at home , in fact, hope that their lives and beliefs are consistent.
Life of faith with the most important is the performance of the parents at home , every Christian in every church may go to the party several times a week . Inside the church , you can pretend to look like a very devout Christian , but you go back home, in the eyes of a child is 24 hours in the verification of your behavior , so your words and deeds in which your child must With themselves , from the application of the faith with the hope of life is an example from the parents started their own , then they will follow you have such a yard outside the unity of life , the child in real life, in faith Implementation .
We Chinese parents love the Biaoda above, we have to Xuexichangchang hug a child ,会share with the kids the story of some young , or their own wrong thing because they will feel that the original father and mother would Wrong , they will take the initiative to share where they need help . By observing the children to see what their interest is , and then arrange a common time with him. For example , a comparison of the eldest daughter like to watch movies, special arrangements for parents only go to the movies with boss , to take this opportunity to share with her a lot , because only two people , we can talk more. She also felt her mother was also recognized my needs , she knows her mother is able to understand her and her younger brother have different needs , we are doing.
Daughter when he was in contact with skin , for example, hug her, hug her close to her . Sometimes love is not with words alone, the need for these operations , the need for such behavior. Her daughter , the parents would speak to her in the future more heart , not the same with the boys . Afraid that her daughter was cheated , being bullied , being hurt so many concerns.
In adolescence , her friend , her companion , is a major factor affecting her , so we pray to her side and have some friends with her spiritual growth . Often encourage her to have read through the life , prayer life. So she knew God's mind , we parents are not beside her , she taught in God's guidance as one of her parents is often pray for her .
Now the United States, college students, men and women having sex before marriage is common , many parents will think , would be worried if something has happened how do? So with our Christian faith taught her , know how to live a life pleasing to God , if the children understand the fear of God, and know they have to live a life pleasing to God , she can draw strength from God is better than a lot of Thing.
In American life , children are very free, in a small time, he should let them create a concept from their parents but can not leave God . You are in the charge of God , you are children of God. A child we should pray in the reading area , and they have a good communication , knowing from their parents not to leave everything and not leave the rules , not to leave your holy way of life , this is a very important concept . If they have a fear of God's heart , whether they are in the ends of the earth , they know how to live a life pleasing to God , we parents can rest assured complete .
Life of faith with the most important is the performance of the parents at home , every Christian in every church may go to the party several times a week . Inside the church , you can pretend to look like a very devout Christian , but you go back home, in the eyes of a child is 24 hours in the verification of your behavior , so your words and deeds in which your child must With themselves , from the application of the faith with the hope of life is an example from the parents started their own , then they will follow you have such a yard outside the unity of life , the child in real life, in faith Implementation .
We Chinese parents love the Biaoda above, we have to Xuexichangchang hug a child ,会share with the kids the story of some young , or their own wrong thing because they will feel that the original father and mother would Wrong , they will take the initiative to share where they need help . By observing the children to see what their interest is , and then arrange a common time with him. For example , a comparison of the eldest daughter like to watch movies, special arrangements for parents only go to the movies with boss , to take this opportunity to share with her a lot , because only two people , we can talk more. She also felt her mother was also recognized my needs , she knows her mother is able to understand her and her younger brother have different needs , we are doing.
Daughter when he was in contact with skin , for example, hug her, hug her close to her . Sometimes love is not with words alone, the need for these operations , the need for such behavior. Her daughter , the parents would speak to her in the future more heart , not the same with the boys . Afraid that her daughter was cheated , being bullied , being hurt so many concerns.
In adolescence , her friend , her companion , is a major factor affecting her , so we pray to her side and have some friends with her spiritual growth . Often encourage her to have read through the life , prayer life. So she knew God's mind , we parents are not beside her , she taught in God's guidance as one of her parents is often pray for her .
Now the United States, college students, men and women having sex before marriage is common , many parents will think , would be worried if something has happened how do? So with our Christian faith taught her , know how to live a life pleasing to God , if the children understand the fear of God, and know they have to live a life pleasing to God , she can draw strength from God is better than a lot of Thing.
In American life , children are very free, in a small time, he should let them create a concept from their parents but can not leave God . You are in the charge of God , you are children of God. A child we should pray in the reading area , and they have a good communication , knowing from their parents not to leave everything and not leave the rules , not to leave your holy way of life , this is a very important concept . If they have a fear of God's heart , whether they are in the ends of the earth , they know how to live a life pleasing to God , we parents can rest assured complete .
How to grow and develop along with adolescent children ( 1 )
Children from childhood into adolescence , when aspects of the physical aspects or Xinli have different changes Erju this time as a child Ye Kaishixiangyao adult , he tries hard to change, like his mother Huozhe Taren Shi Like adults . When the child self-reliance , independence, increasing self- awareness , when it 's way to teach parents may need to be adjusted . This time the biggest adjustment is learning to shift from a mother's role as a close friend of the child , let him think you were next to him a good friend. Parents should learn their language , or clothing, or interest in respect for the opposite sex is to learn . Parents with their own experiences to share their stories with them , then they can also share their part with you , so that a better understanding of their psychological and changes in the opposite sex and their thoughts and feelings .
Children grow up in , in their daily lives, although we are friends, but sometimes also in need of discipline , when , usually by the father to discipline . In this respect, sometimes after a certain punishment , and the kids said their parents had so little time to grow up too , also have been punished this way too . Parents are human beings , but also a painful stage after this , they will agree , they were punished in their growth process is in a part of . That is, they would throw socks off after the will , or even not to change and wash clothes on a fixed place on the plug under the bed under the quilt , then give them a proper punishment. This punishment is not to say a few large plates, or is that a few days off their computer , or television , or a specific cleaning them , or you need to wash a few weeks . When you ask them this time , or put some of their TV programs or the Internet , etc. , they are usually obedient , because from the beginning when they were young . You when a father from his little when you say not so, to a time when young people would not you say so , this requires an early age , when there is a basis .
For example: Dad said no , even if the sky is falling does not work, because God is the God of justice, he wants to teach , every father is the image of God and justice . We must firmly remember that , do not overlook that when the father of this role.
After each penalty , or to teach , especially to arrange a time to chat with them , or Bao Yibao them, so their relationship will not be destroyed because of this punishment . This is a child understand that discipline , but they also know their parents love them, hate them or think they are not very good, but a positive image of the discipline , they understand that we love him. For the children, both boys and girls have always embraced , and later in the discipline has been able to hug them and let the children feel their parents love deeply . Let the child know that parenting is reasonable , I should accept parental discipline . Between the child with parents to establish a parents both respects the feelings of love .
In the discipline , if we parents do not have a discipline , then the child itself is unsafe because he does not know in the end result is that he did right or wrong.
Children grow up in , in their daily lives, although we are friends, but sometimes also in need of discipline , when , usually by the father to discipline . In this respect, sometimes after a certain punishment , and the kids said their parents had so little time to grow up too , also have been punished this way too . Parents are human beings , but also a painful stage after this , they will agree , they were punished in their growth process is in a part of . That is, they would throw socks off after the will , or even not to change and wash clothes on a fixed place on the plug under the bed under the quilt , then give them a proper punishment. This punishment is not to say a few large plates, or is that a few days off their computer , or television , or a specific cleaning them , or you need to wash a few weeks . When you ask them this time , or put some of their TV programs or the Internet , etc. , they are usually obedient , because from the beginning when they were young . You when a father from his little when you say not so, to a time when young people would not you say so , this requires an early age , when there is a basis .
For example: Dad said no , even if the sky is falling does not work, because God is the God of justice, he wants to teach , every father is the image of God and justice . We must firmly remember that , do not overlook that when the father of this role.
After each penalty , or to teach , especially to arrange a time to chat with them , or Bao Yibao them, so their relationship will not be destroyed because of this punishment . This is a child understand that discipline , but they also know their parents love them, hate them or think they are not very good, but a positive image of the discipline , they understand that we love him. For the children, both boys and girls have always embraced , and later in the discipline has been able to hug them and let the children feel their parents love deeply . Let the child know that parenting is reasonable , I should accept parental discipline . Between the child with parents to establish a parents both respects the feelings of love .
In the discipline , if we parents do not have a discipline , then the child itself is unsafe because he does not know in the end result is that he did right or wrong.
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